One wrong thing (small) leads to big ones.
What harm comes with having one cigarette? They may tell you.. (Or any other thing that you can think of).
So it begins with.. lil things. And then this small hole is it turned into a big pit. You create a pit for yourself which was first dug or was done with the person who put this thought in your head. And made you believe.
Not understanding whats happening to you. And, till the time you understand, you are already down in the pit. And you struggle to come out of it. But its too late. You blame yourself. Thinking that this is what you wanted, you stop trying to come out of it.
Where is this person? Are they with you now?
As we grow up, we experience many things. This leads us to become who we are and what we are doing.
Everything is new. We set limits and expectations.
These limits creates our boundaries of what we are allowed to do and what not. Things like, if somebody offers you drink, will you take it?
Probably you won’t. But then it changes with time.
There are times, situation make us suffer where in this seems to be the only way out. Then we form a perception that things works this way. And it is going to be this way (rationalize it). To be safe and sound and follow the crowd they drink (just an example).
That’s how we slowly and gradualy lose our well being and our rules and values.
We give up because we don’t want to fight the world and follow the idea of… “..”
People tend to generalize things by saying, “Everyone does it”.
As if they have done thesis or research on this hypothesis. Even the psychologist dont make such strong statement with such confidence than they do. (Nobodys fault, even they have been through this)
How do they know that everyone does it? Just because they saw some people doing it they thought that everyone does it. Don’t fall for this. Its not true.
Even if everyone does it, does it make mandatory for you to do it? Do you want to do it? Are you well versed with the consequences of doing it?
If you fall for the thought of ‘everyone does it’, you start to break that limits and boundaries you made. And things become casual. Slowly and steadily you don’t feel that you are doing anything wrong. And influence other by saying:
“EVERYONE DOES IT!”
Break the chain.
It has its pros and cons. Respect people who don’t do it. I have had friends in my life who have accepted me as I am. WE should also understand that WE should be ourselves. Stand up for yourself. And make people understand why it is important for you. Its not that they are wrong. Its just your beliefs and values. And that doesn’t make you different from them.