Random Thoughts

Jealousy

Alhumdulilah I don’t feel jealous (hasad). Jealousy in our religion eats up our good deeds. So we are taught as a kid not to be jealous of others.

My dad used to get us things which were unique. Not available here in India. Other didnt had them. I could sense their jealousy. It made me feel bad. Not for them, I hated them for feeling that way. What do they have to with what I have?

Can’t they have their own? Why are they after my life? I didn’t understand their limitations, restrictions etc.

But now when I see somebody has something that I dont have. Its like this moment takes me back to that moment I felt. And the feeling is so strong. That I dont feel jealous at all.

I believe what they have is what they struggled for or wished for. And what you have is what you wish for.

So are you happy with what you have?

So do you think they are happy with what they have?

The exictement of having something is only till the time you don’t get it. When you get it, its gone. You have it.

You can make it important though, if its important enough.Long lasting. But you will have to work on it.

P.S: I have stopped telling people what I want. Its like, you want to eat an apple. Its an ordinary apple, noone is even buying it. The moment you say your craving for apple and its not available anywhere. The price will go up high. To f**k with what I want. I really dont want anything.


Do you love me?

This question we ask for security. It is so selfish that you want the person to prove it to an extend that knows no bond. It includes suffering, displaying of emotion and proving that your stupid.

May be thats also not enough. Its nothing wrong. Nobody wants to get hurt. Everybody needs assurance. Even though we know deep down, it may or may not be true.

And when we get betrayed, the most hurtful thing is that – How could you trust them? Are we so easy and stupid?

Everything goes around what we want.

But why?

Why do we get so selfish that we want somebody to love us to that extend?

What if you die? And then some of them wouldn’t want them to be with someone else too. (You are mine)

Love what we know as ‘the way we have been expecting’ like in movies. It doesn’t exist. We can create it though. But creating them is very dangerous.

May be thats why marriages were invented for. To fulfill the needs of a person. So that he/she lives peacefully. Over a period of time, things changed, prespective changed. Expections have reached no limits. And depression, depression, depression is what we see.

Marriage like a legal contract. Like a people would say ‘a practical thing’. Instead of it becoming a way of benefitting us, it became more like a cage. With benefits love will automatically flow in. Benefits – helping each other etc. Instead of being a burden that everyone wants to run away from.

Unrealistic things can be made real. It all depends on what we want.

Complicated life? Make it simple! Won’t be that simple though.


Goodness

Sometimes goodness is poisousness.

If you want to leave a person. But they are too good. All you are looking for is faults. But you can’t find any. It becomes difficult to leave such person.

So with limitation. You give the opposite person the chance to move on. If they want. They wont feel stuck. They may come back. But alteast they will be sure this time that they can adjust with you limitation.

Everything related to love is seemed by people stupid. But they do it anyway.


How things strange are:

World has alot of hyprocisy in it. People say one thing, do the other. People’s mind works in a mysterious way.

How strange things are:

You say something that you experienced in past, something dreadful. And it sounds so simple.

But say something that is so simple sounds dramatic.


Tom and Jerry

I dont know if someone has felt this. But if your in a relationship. If the person approaches you, you run away from that person. And when you approach that person, that person runs away from you.

And this will go on. Until one has to stop. So, I be the bigger person. And let go!


Communications

It leads to misunderstanding. Words are very powerful.

When you are in a conversation, you understand things according to your perception. And same with the other person.

Now what happens is. When you say a sentence. Like for instance. I am happy. You have given that person limited details. And they will assume you are happy. It may be that you are happy for the moment. Or may be because you are happy because you are talking to them.

And then they will say, ‘But you said you are happy!’

You will be all confused to make them understand. And think that you are now contradicting your statement. And the fights begins.

Electronic converstations are the worst. Because it hides emotions. When you are with someone you immediately get the vibes and expressions you are looking for. (Even that sometimes lead to miscommunication). It may or may not be important, depends on you!


Pratical

People who be practical, are they pratical themselve? Its not necessary to be practical always.

Things can be planned and made pratical. Stop misusing the word!

Why do we fake smile?

  • Cause we know that other are going through stress and may not want to deal with a your problems.
  • Cause you cannot go on the road and yell ‘Oh, I am so broken.!’ Would you like to see somebody do that?
  • Cause you know your smile will make others smile.

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Creativity – Problem Solving – Stress

If the post is too long you can read it in three part 😉

Problem solving

In life, most of the time – we don’t know or fail to understand what the problems is (sounds simple but is a big deal).

Identifying the problem – is the main issue. We try to alter is with temporary solution rather than knowing the main cause.

Then we someday manage to find the solution to the problem

We are lazy to execute the proper solution ‘it doesn’t fail’ rather we should know where did we stop?

For instance: I have a task – Reading a book

I have to complete it. The moment I read the page I don’t understand what’s written. (How do you solve this?)

Move forward – underline the difficult words and read the next page – Complete the book learn the meaning of the words

Start to use them your my daily life. So you have used it somewhere. So your hard work have paid off.

If you wont use it in your life, you will automatically lose interest in it. Because you are not getting anything out of it.

They are few task which don’t have any outcome. In such cases, you can put artificial rewards for yourself. The way we tell our children to complete the homework – you will get a toffee. (you can learn in detail about positive and negative reinforcement)

Problem could be anything. I have just an example of one task (not able to complete) as a problem.

To conclude, if you want to complete a task or solve a problem – identify, solve (solving won’t be easy, try to stick to it) and repeat.

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Stress

There is a positive stress and negative stress. (Some stress is necessary for you to go on in life)

Stress may be good or bad. Good – if you use it correctly and bad – if you let it hamper you.

For instance: deadline – if you don’t have deadlines you would be casual about the work given. Deadline creates stress which makes you complete the task.

Negative stress won’t let you complete your work/task – too much stress usually creates failure. You may even give up instantly. Even if you try your stress won’t let you complete it. Because your wasting your time worrying about it rather than doing it.

Creativity

All of these things are inter-related to each other. It helps you to function well.

When you are in a box, you will reach out to things that are available. If things are not available in the box you go out to find. And may be even go beyond your limits. In the process, you will learn things and make mistakes.

Creativity is similar to that.

When you are young things are cut out from you. Your blocked! What I mean is. We are told to behave in a manner. Concrete solution for concrete problem. This pattern stops you from thinking out of the box. Very rarely people go out of the box to solve the problem. Because they are happy or lazy with what they have.

Thoughts

There have been research about this. Still discovering. Basically everything begins and ends here.

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Different types of people

  • Give and take types

-Most respected. Forms a pattern.

– They have issues taking anything from others. This pose a disadvantage. Because sometimes thing which are free are sold to them lol. (You should understand that its okay sometimes to take, accept it as a gift.)

Its not necessary all the time to give back if its not in your capability. Compromise most of the time leads to confusion. I gave you this- usually I don’t-because your special. This thing is most difficult to explain. You will spend your life proving it. It wont happen because you did it. Being firm with your limitation and understanding the peoples limitation helps to maintain a healthy relationship.

  • Take too much

Is not really interested in respect. May not be wrong and in fact most happiest person if thing go according to them. They are may easily shattered because they have to much expectations and may someday wont be able to fulfil. And wont be happy with minimum. Greed starts to built in.

  • Giver!

Most taken advantage of. All they want is respect. They cannot compromise on that. They know they are being taken advantage of- still they give. It makes them happy. But doesn’t understand giving too much is creating a ‘take too much’ personality.


Should there be a balanced type?

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